Safe breath play

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Q: In a frank exchange early in our courtship, I told my girlfriend that I have no kinks. As a faithful reader of Savage Love, I'm obviously not opposed to kinks—but I've never had safe breath play inclinations in that direction and am probably a typical hetero vanilla.

As a result, I'm damn near clueless in that area. Last night, my girlfriend placed my hands around her neck and asked me to choke her. My instant reaction was to say no, not out of any objection in principle but because I thought it might be dangerous in my inexperienced hands.

Later I did comply, but I was definitely holding back. I dearly love my main squeeze—clever pun there, huh? I know about safe words, but can we count on them when the recipient's larynx is being compromised and she may be close to passing out? For the record, I had no difficulty in acceding to her request to be bitten, as I know where and how hard I can do that without causing damage, but choking is an area of darkness for me.

And let me note that my girlfriend has no grounding in medicine, physiology, or anything that would lead me to be comfortable trusting her judgment about choking. People think it's a low-risk activity, but it's not. Choking isn't just about the lungs. It can affect the brain and the heart—it can affect the whole body—and if the bottom has underlying health issues, things can go disastrously wrong. I feel strongly about this. Fragile bones like the hyoid bonenerves, arteries, veins—the neck is a crowded place, it's vulnerable, and putting sustained pressure on someone's neck is extremely risky.

Matisse also noted: "The person doing the choking needs to be aware that they're on the hook legally—for at least manslaughter charges—if the person who asked to be choked should die. People have gone to jail for this kind of 'play. People have died from a safe breath play seconds of being choked. There simply are no landmarks—meaning, you can't say to a reasonable degree of medical certainty that if you 'only' choke someone for 30 seconds, they'll be OK.

People have died after being choked for less than 30 seconds. I'm tempted to leave it there, CHOKE, because I worry that anything else I might say—anything remotely equivocal—could result in one idiot choking another to death. But the fact of the matter is that choking, despite the risks, is a relatively common kink, and almost all deaths related to breath play occur during solo scenes, not partnered scenes. So I'm going to give you a little advice about meeting your girlfriend's particular needs safely, i.

Grab her hair, wrap an arm around her shoulder—not her neck—and put your other hand over her mouth. That should satisfy the urge. If it's not too disturbing a look—if it's not a boner killer—you can put a gas mask on someone, cover the breathing hole with the flat of your hand, and cut off your partner's air.

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All they have to do when they need a breath is shake their head, which will break the seal created by your palm and allow them to breathe. And finally, CHOKE, you could—if you really like this woman—take a stage combat class or book a session with a fight choreographer.

There are safe choke holds safe breath play on stage, where the person being choked is in control and no actual pressure is placed on the neck. Q: My boyfriend of four months is great, we're in love, and the sex is amazing. Now for the but: A strange man takes my boyfriend out once or twice a year for a fancy lunch and gives him a lot of expensive new underwear. At these lunch "dates," my boyfriend returns the underwear the man gave him last time, now used and worn.

It seems obvious to me that Underpants Pervert, as I've dubbed him, is masturbating with these old pairs of underwear.

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He agreed, but he went back on the agreement the next time Underpants Pervert snapped his fingers. My boyfriend says he likes this guy, doesn't feel objectified in a bad way, enjoys their lunches, and thinks of him as an old friend. When I see my boyfriend in safe breath play underwear, all I can think is, "That pervert is going to be masturbating into those soon," when I should be thinking, "My boyfriend is so sexy. But what if I can't?

PS: And if you can't get over it? You've already asked your boyfriend to stop seeing this man, and he chose the perverted fag over the controlling girlfriend. If you can't get over it and you decide to issue that ultimatum, HISBUM, don't be surprised if he chooses the pervert over you a second time. Q: Just wondering why I can't find any coverage in your many years of letters concerning the effects of public lice on sexual health and relationships.

Some people believe pubic lice have been driven to extinction—at least in the West—by the shaving-your-pubes trend, which is now in its second or third decade and shows no of abating.

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But that theory, which I once believed myself and could explain why no one asks me about ithas been thoroughly debunked. So I can't tell you why public lice haven't come up in the column. It's a mystery.

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Are you in? Not ready to commit? Send us what you can! The Chicago Reader. So your partner wants to be choked? I'm a year-old cis bi woman. A: Get over it.

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